It's always a standing joke AGAINST blokes that they don't remember their anniversary or when their wife or mother's birthday is!!
In my experience that's a serious underestimation of numerous blokes who value their relationships and look back with pleasure on their wedding day. What's more they have no trouble remembering their wedding anniversary.
SweetP often has a memory like a sieve! Hair appointments or an upcoming social event are just not on his radar.
But this morning when I awoke late, after SweetP had left for work, there was a romantic sticky note on my computer wishing me a Happy Anniversary.
You see, today is our 31st Wedding Anniversary
!
Yes, way back in 74, when paisley and platform shoes were "groovy", and we were very young, we undertook to love each other for always.
It didn't always feel good, or too loving at times, in those earlier years. Communicating on the hard things was as difficult for us as it is for anyone else. We stumbled many times and could easily have fallen into the mire of just giving up and walking away!
Until we spent the time, and found out how to talk and love each other as close to unconditionally as we can. Believe me, it took plenty of time and energy to really "get" how to live together and love each other.
Some days are still better than others in our relationship, just like it is for you.
But I know that my dreams, my fears, my love, and my strength lie with one man.
Years ago, there's no way I could have trusted so confidently in that, or SweetP, and felt safe in that knowledge.
Spending that time to drill down deep into our relationship and find the wellspring of intimacy (into-me-see) has meant that I feel sure of SweetP's love, and know my soulmate cherishes the undying love I offer him.
I've just Googled for the appropriate symbolic gift for a 31st anniversary and according to the Chicago Public Library, it's timepieces!
So as I listen to the clock ticking here in my office, I'm reminded that our time together is finite and I want SweetP to know that I cherish each minute we have together, especially the ones we have alone together.
I'm telling him here, but I also tell him in my Language of Love and in his, that my world is wonderful becuase of him.
I KNOW that this kind of relationship is within the grasp of all of you, who want to put in the effort to get the reward!
Go on, I dare you!
Happy Anniversary SweetP! I love you more than yesterday, and less than tomorrow dear!
Congratulations to the two of you. You are a shining beacon of hope for the rest of us following on behind - thanks for sharing your love with the rest of us. I, for one, feel very honoured to be able to witness the joy you two create.
Posted by: Karen | October 10, 2005 at 05:12 PM
A huge congrats and it's great to hear about a marriage/relationship standing the test of time (and might I add that you don't look old enough to have been married that long!!). So many relationships fall by the wayside it's terrific to hear about one that's still going strong. I wish you many more wonderful years together. Trina
Posted by: Trina Blum | October 11, 2005 at 10:34 PM